Collecting a slew of business cards for the purpose of adding them to your newsletter or blog is spamming. Unsubscribe. Inviting those you meet to be your Friend on Facebook or Connection on LinkedIn just to hit them with promotional posts that add no value could be perceived as spam. Or maybe that’s just social media. Be careful! As you’re exchanging cards with those you meet, if appropriate, ask them if they would be interested in receiving your blog or included in your social media world. Very often, if you post something of value (an article, quote, or something else that’s useful), others won’t mind so much and might even find the information helpful. If you’re simply promoting your services, it’s a great way to lose Friends and Connections.
Not Listening to Others
Ever meet someone at an event that talks about themselves and not once asks about you? Ever happen to you? If not, it’s YOU! Put an emphasis on listening to others while asking great questions. The things you learn might be very helpful! Learn about their business, products, services, hopes, dreams, interests, hobbies, business and personal goals. Give someone the gift of truly listening to them. When you do, very often, they listen right back!
Missing a Deadline and Asking for a Discount
Lots of meetings require you to register by a certain date and if you do so before the deadline, you can benefit from an Early Bird discount, a free drink, or whatever. If you register after the deadline, you don’t get the incentive. That’s the deal. Don’t be the one who misses the deadline and asks for the discount anyway. You might save a couple of dollars but it will never make you look good. Pay the higher price, learn, and next time be better about your deadlines. It’s about looking good!
Not Showing and Asking for a Refund
Most meetings and organized groups that charge a registration fee typically have a “no refund” policy as an incentive to have those that pay actually show up. What happens if you paid for the meeting and now you can’t attend? Or you simply choose not to go? Is it your fault or the organization’s fault? Like missing a deadline, learn from the above. And pay the higher rate at the door if you won’t know until the last minute if you can attend. Again, look good – as opposed to looking bad.
I see these behaviors happen all the time. Pushy? Maybe. You decide.
It all comes down to the people you meet and the relationships you develop – over time. Your approach is really about how you want to show up for others and, as a result, how they show up for you.
Here’s the real question. How do you want people to think about you the next time you attend an event That is, if you get invited back.